LIFE | While Dad's Away...

Sunday, September 27, 2015


We are currently about 4 months into this deployment. We are so lucky that we have technology that helps us stay close during this temporary separation. We use FaceTime a few times a day to chat and keep up with what is going on in our lives. Not only is it good for our marriage, but it helps for my son to feel close to his dad. It is very hard for a 4 year old to understand why dad can't be here, but this cuts some of that separation anxiety.



What this deployment means for me is that I have to try to replace some of that dad time. Let's be real, dad is the silly one and I am definitely the more subdued parent, so I've had to break out of my shell a bit to keep things interesting. This is particularly difficult for me because not only is it out of my personality range - at times I am sure I am a robot - but between being being a full time student and a business owner, my time is quite filled up. Taking time to be silly seems almost, well, silly.

I am so fortunate that I am able to not work right now and that I can focus on school, but I am tired. In the past 7 months, I have taken 12 classes, with no breaks in between. My school offers 8-week accelerated courses and I, being incredibly eager to finish, have been sprinting to the finish line. I know that when my husband comes back, I will need to return to work, so it is important to me to be able to utilize this time well. But as I finish this session of 3 classes, I still have one more session of 3 left before I complete the requirements for my bachelors degree. This momma is TIRED. Try reading anywhere from 100-300 pages in your textbooks each week and then doing assignments, taking quizzes, and writing papers on top of that! Do that and try not to lose your mind!

I don't have much time for myself. I have no time for myself. I know this is not an excuse though. My son needs me to be there and hell if I'm going to let anything get in the way of that. We try to take some time every day to be silly. Sometimes we have dance parties, sometimes we read books in silly voices, sometimes we just take silly pictures.




I know that there are single parents who do this everyday and have done so for a long time. I'm not trying to compare my experiences or glorify what some people do all the time just because I have been doing this for only 4 months. But for our family, this is a huge adjustment and right now, I have to keep my son well adjusted until dad comes home. No matter how you put it, if your spouse, significant other, or support system isn't able to be there, it is hard. I'm just ready for my family to be whole again, but in the mean time, I'll just hold it all together with sheer will and determination and we will make it through this, one silly event at a time.







How do you guys keep the little ones entertained during the day?

Susie

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